Figlio di puttana

Figlio di puttana, well that means 'son-of-a-bitch' in italian...
thats what i did all of saturday, hung out with a bunch of friends, learning italian foul words from one of my friend who had returned from Italy.
stop blinking your eyes or else i shall call u 'cazzo' (Sorry, i am not goin to tell u what it means, haha).

Well i think i am deviating from the topic, coz the fact is that i have become very selfish or boastfull these days.

"It seems to me probable that anyone who has a series of intolerable positions to put up with must have been responsible for them in some extent; not that it was simply "their fault" - I don't mean that- but that they have contributed to it by impatience, or intolerance, or brusqueness- or some provocation."
-Robert Hugh Benson

I have no idea who's this chap (This was a quote i read in Sunday TOI), but i know now that he makes some sense.

There is no end to the number of conversations i have ruined and number of people i must have hurt for lack of patience. Its only much later i look back and think "Oh my god! I could have been nice instead of snapping". And why did I snap ? Because I wanted to be right and I had no patience for other opinions. And even if i am right, it probably gives me no right to talk to another person in this way.Sometimes I m unable to give people a chance to speak out their opinions simply because I am obsessed with the fact that I am right and they are wrong. Somewhere deep inside my head i think i have made a clear distinction of what is right/wrong, good/bad, happy/unhappy... and the first thing my brain does is Classify.

So i got a suggestion on how to be patient from one of my friend,

a) To develop patience: Stop classifying

When you stop classifying, you stop having that strong urge to be FOR or AGAINST. And you stop trying to prove that you are right. Life becomes so much easier when you just attribute everything that goes wrong to the fact that the humans are flawed. Let me be patient and move on with my life.

b)To develop patience : Trust and Respect others.

I find it very hard to randomly trust and respect all the random people around me. Be it friends, relatives, colleagues.... Simply because I need proof that this person deserves respect,but i know that's a wrong approach.
I realize, people are brought up in different ways... they learn different values... they grow up believing different things... Why did I stop respecting that ?
[Of course, it is natural to disrespect a cheat or murderer, but in this blog i am talking about normal people who sometimes do normal /naughty/mean/silly things]
Once this respect sets in, its easier to hear people out. The judging and evaluating should always happen in the end (if required) or not happen at all.

I' ve risked many relationships because I am willing to go down to the bottom of the matter and prove a certain thing wrong --- just because it might make something better and for absolutely no personal gain. Ultimately I lose, because who wants to listen ?. Nobody is willing to listen. They have no patience for my opinions.

But let me do my best to better my patience. and even then there will be one less impatient sinner in me, hahaha !but - "does little drops of water make...... the mighty ocean ???"

Patience is the one thing I was not born with, but I m determined to develop it !

"You must first have a lot of patience to learn to have patience."...........Hahaha, one more quote from a person whom i donno....